Welcome to my website! I'm Ziba Graham, Jr., author
of Better than a Stick in the Eye: A Method for Resolving Conflicts and Bringing about
Changes in Marriages, Families, and the Workplace.
About the Author After receiving my
undergraduate degree in Business Administration from Georgetown University, I
joined the Navy for a three year sea tour. After the Navy I went to Indiana
University where I completed a MBA. Following school and marriage I joined the
family agriculture business and worked there for 25 years. At age fifty I went
back to school and earned a MSW from the University of Louisville. I also
received an A.A. Degree and a Certificate of Study in Substance Abuse from
Vincennes University.
I developed
a method of counseling (the ZG method) that helped produce real, lasting changes
in people. My book, Better Than a Stick in the Eye: A Method for Resolving
Conflicts and Bringing about Changes in Marriages, Families and the Workplace,
adapts my methods so they can be used to help people repair their own
relationships at home and in the workplace. This method has been used by me for
ten years with hundreds of couples, families and employers, and it works.
Having both a business and a social work background has given me a
unique perspective on relationship issues because my business background focuses
me on what works rather than on just what feels right at the moment. I have
given over a hundred seminars and presentations, some as large as 400 people, on
relationship issues. I have also had twenty-five newspaper articles published
and have been on local TV and radio. After many years of writing I still
consider myself not so much a writer as a guy with a story to tell. This story
is that you don't have to run from or live with a broken relationship—you can
repair it, and it isn't as hard to do as you might think.
About my latest book, Better than a Stick in the
Eye: A Method for Resolving Conflicts and
Bringing about Changes in Marriages, Families, and the Workplace
Many of the people I counseled would ask what they could do if they got
stuck, again. They wanted to know if there was something they could do on their
own instead of coming back to counseling. They asked me to give them some
background on how I was able to help them resolve their conflicts and provide
them with a step-by-step guide to repair their relationships again. This book is
the response to that request.
The book is based on the ZG method which I
used in counseling for over ten years. This isn't a book of helpful hints from
some expert; rather it promotes change by asking future-oriented questions so
the participants can find their own solutions. Following this method is as
simple as following the script with over thirty sample questions to choose from.
Directions are given on what to say and what not to say. Other parts of the book
stress how to stay positive and utilize a person's strengths through the whole
process. The theory behind the ZG method is discussed and the actual mechanics
of the method are explained in great detail. The book talks about positive
change and how to bring it about, using many examples. It explains in great
detail, using a step-by-step format, how to use the ZG method at home and in the
workplace to resolve conflicts. Another advantage of using this method is that
it doesn't go to the past and revisit past hurts, so it isn't a painful
experience. Whether you need to work on your own relationships or you would like
to help someone else with relationship conflicts, this book is very helpful.
Welcome to my website!
